Are Your Relationship Expectations Realistic?

                                        
“You don’t marry the person you love; you learn to love the person you marry.” Floyd Jackson 

Who doesn't like a love story? Usually, your senses are awakened as you listen, watch the facial movements, picture the moment and bask in the lovers' glow. Sometimes you find yourself reminiscing about your own love story. The smells, sights, and sounds of that moment come flooding back, as you take a walk down memory lane.

The First Meet: 

 You see the cute guy across the room/restaurant/bar/club/train/bus. You make eye contact, smile. He walks over. You exchange contact information. You go on your first date, then plenty dates. Then you fall in love, meet each other families, get engaged, move in together, get married, and live happily ever after.
Sounds familiar? Is this how you met your significant other? Or is your story different? How many of us wish it was like this? You can share your love story below…
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·         well-paid,
·          athletic,
·         tall,
·         handsome,
·         beautiful,
·         sexy,
·         drive a nice car,
·          little to no drama,
·         romantic,  
·         non-smoker,
·         Outgoing,
·         never married,
·         good morals,
·         family oriented,
·         lives independently,
·         handy around the house,
·         good cook,  
·         good lover,
·         likes the things you love,
·         dresses well,
·         educated,  
·         good personal hygiene…I can go on, but you get my drift by now.

Do you evaluate your prospect by these standards? Can one person have all these qualities? The bar is too high! We can have expectations, but they must be realistic. Understand people grow and change over time.   

Here is a  website that shows a  comprehensive list of realistic expectations. The author states, "though these ingredients are the same for every relationship, remember to season it to your own taste since every connection is different from the other, which makes them beautiful. 

http://www.newlovetimes.com/12-realistic-relationship-expectations-that-are-reasonable-to-have/

 In this series of blogs, we will uncover topics from relationships ranging from attraction to love to marriage. Stay tuned because we will have some fun on this relationship journey, from the first Meet-Cute to the I do’s!

Feel free to add your comments below regarding your relationship expectations and come back next week as we discuss "Physical Attraction: How important is it?"
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