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Are You Petty? The word petty has recently become popular, due to the abundance of reality shows depicting women acting out like in the "Housewives franchises." It can be also found on social media like Instagram twitter, and blogs. It simply means to take trivial matters and make them important with childish behaviors. A petty person isn't necessarily immature, but their behavior says a lot about them when being petty. Don’t confuse pettiness with standing up for yourself. We have a choice how to react. Use wisdom and don’t act on emotion. Let’s talk about who the petty one is in the relationship. Often in romantic relationships, people reveal their petty side. Why? Simple…they lack the relationship basics: love, trust, respect, honesty, and communication. Without one, some, or all of these basics, relationships usually don’t last long. If they do, they are abusive or riddled with problems.  Who wants to constantly nit-pick in a relationship? I personally don...

Matters of The Heart Let’s get intimate! Not that kind of intimacy…that will come later. We are discussing what lies beneath physical appearance. We have connected, we have physical attraction, now we get to the heart of the matter.  Have you ever saw something that looked appealing but midway through (a book, food, movie, clothing, accessories, etc.) you felt you got robbed or hoodwinked? We have all experienced this. Well, this happens in relationships as well. Some situations arise early, while others, take time to show up. However, when a problem surfaces, you must decide what you will do, when the time comes. As usual, I will share mine at the end. What happens when time, energy, heart, and soul have been invested in something, and you realize you may have to let it go? Is it easy? Or is it hard? There is no definite answer because we are all individuals and what works for one may not work for another. When do you think is the best time to get to know ...

In the last post, we touched on unrealistic expectations. This week we will be looking at physical attributes. How important is the appearance in a relationship? In your relationship? What was the thing that drew you to your partner? That thing that makes you smile whenever you think of them? Is it a physical feature? Or a combination of features and characteristics? I will share mine in the end 😊. Physical attraction is what sparks relationships. If there is no interest, nothing happens. When you give the wide-eyed stare, the double take, the gasp that takes your breath away for a moment, that is a sign your interest is peaked. The next steps aren’t planned and are usually awkward, and in some cases embarrassing. These moments can be flattering and cute to the other person.  Meanwhile, you hope not to make a fool of yourself.    ·         What are some of the features you look for in a partner?   Feel free to add your attracti...

                                         “You don’t marry the person you love; you learn to love the person you marry.” Floyd Jackson  Who doesn't like a love story? Usually, your senses are awakened as you listen, watch the facial movements, picture the moment and bask in the lovers' glow. Sometimes you find yourself reminiscing about your own love story. The smells, sights, and sounds of that moment come flooding back, as you take a walk down memory lane. The First Meet :  You see the cute guy across the room/restaurant/bar/club/train/bus. You make eye contact, smile. He walks over. You exchange contact information. You go on your first date, then plenty dates. Then you fall in love, meet each other families, get engaged, move in together, get married, and live happily ever after. Sounds familiar? Is this how you met your significant other? Or is yo...