Meet-Cute to I Do

We’ve come to the beginning of an end. The beginning of an “us” and the end of just “me, me, me.”  During the past eight weeks, I’ve covered different aspects of relationships: From meet-cute, commitment, pettiness, attraction, sex, lust/love, and now we are here for the deciding factor. For some of you, marriage may be on your menu. You’ve decided the search is over, you’ve found what you want, and you’re ready to say, “I do.” What next, you may ask? I got you. Here is a list of some of the things to prepare for: The Proposal This is the first big decision you’ll make.  It can be a big deal depending on your partner, so make it one to remember for both of you. It shows whether you’ve been paying attention to the subtle hints or you totally missed the signs. What do they expect? How will it happen?  ·          Private - hot air balloon, hotel rooftop;  public- sporting event, park; mysterious- treasure hunt; holiday- Valentine's day, New Year's Ev

Relationship SEX Can individuals be in a relationship and only have sex? What kind of relationship is it? Will it be considered a relationship? Is there satisfaction? Happiness? In this blog, I discuss three different types of sexual relationships; Friends with Benefits Relationships, Committed Relationships, and Soul Mate Relationships .  In my previous blog I discussed some differences between love and lust, so now we’ll focus on sex in the relationships. For the record, I have been there, done that with all three, and I’m happy to say, I’m loving Soul Mate love-making. Don’t hate! 😊 Friends with Benefits This relationship steams lustful sex. You enjoy each other for the pleasure of each other’s bodies. If there is a deal made in the beginning stating no feelings involved, then you have pure, unadulterated lust and sexual desire. When a friendship exists before sex, it can make sex easier. The couple aren't strangers so there is a connection between them. Ho

Let’s talk about commitment! Such a major factor in our lives, don’t you agree? It can literally break or make a relationship. Commitment makes the difference in the way a person reacts to their relationship. It sets the tone. I once had a guy say to me, “I don’t do commitments.” I just stared at him in shock, wondering what would become of him in life.  Commitment matters in every relationship that exists: on your job, at school (with assignments, going to class), your family, your children, your friends, even your integrity, for crying out loud! My acquaintance stated he didn’t want to be tied down. I said, “good luck with that.” I don’t know what became of him. I wish him well. I see some commitments as contracts without the paper and ink. For instance, promising to bring desserts for Thanksgiving dinner, providing the snacks for movie night at your friends’ house, better yet, promising to help your friend move. These are examples of verbal commitments. Have you even

Are You Petty? The word petty has recently become popular, due to the abundance of reality shows depicting women acting out like in the "Housewives franchises." It can be also found on social media like Instagram twitter, and blogs. It simply means to take trivial matters and make them important with childish behaviors. A petty person isn't necessarily immature, but their behavior says a lot about them when being petty. Don’t confuse pettiness with standing up for yourself. We have a choice how to react. Use wisdom and don’t act on emotion. Let’s talk about who the petty one is in the relationship. Often in romantic relationships, people reveal their petty side. Why? Simple…they lack the relationship basics: love, trust, respect, honesty, and communication. Without one, some, or all of these basics, relationships usually don’t last long. If they do, they are abusive or riddled with problems.  Who wants to constantly nit-pick in a relationship? I personally don