Meet-Cute to I Do

Yes! Let’s talk about love and lust! There's a difference between the two so let's discuss them both a  bit.  For the record, I met my husband New Year’s Eve and we ended up going to a party later that night. When we were slow dancing, we held each other close and I realized his body felt so good! I immediately started to get all tingly about it. Picturing how he looked with his shirt off. Guess what? I was lusting. I knew nothing about him, besides his name and a few other basics. Nothing else, but I wanted him (crazy, right?). Don’t judge me. We all do it!       Hissing, flirting, making passes, doing a double take, biting down on your lips, playing with your hair, and the star-struck look, and drawing attention to yourself, are some of the ways we communicate our lustful habits.  Either way, this desire comes from just a physical attraction to the feature that catch our attention. It can be playful and innocent, with fantasizing in the mix. Also, one

We’ve come to the beginning of an end. The beginning of an “us” and the end of just “me, me, me.”  During the past eight weeks, I’ve covered different aspects of relationships: From meet-cute, commitment, pettiness, attraction, sex, lust/love, and now we are here for the deciding factor. For some of you, marriage may be on your menu. You’ve decided the search is over, you’ve found what you want, and you’re ready to say, “I do.” What next, you may ask? I got you. Here is a list of some of the things to prepare for: The Proposal This is the first big decision you’ll make.  It can be a big deal depending on your partner, so make it one to remember for both of you. It shows whether you’ve been paying attention to the subtle hints or you totally missed the signs. What do they expect? How will it happen?  ·          Private - hot air balloon, hotel rooftop;  public- sporting event, park; mysterious- treasure hunt; holiday- Valentine's day, New Year's Ev

Relationship SEX Can individuals be in a relationship and only have sex? What kind of relationship is it? Will it be considered a relationship? Is there satisfaction? Happiness? In this blog, I discuss three different types of sexual relationships; Friends with Benefits Relationships, Committed Relationships, and Soul Mate Relationships .  In my previous blog I discussed some differences between love and lust, so now we’ll focus on sex in the relationships. For the record, I have been there, done that with all three, and I’m happy to say, I’m loving Soul Mate love-making. Don’t hate! 😊 Friends with Benefits This relationship steams lustful sex. You enjoy each other for the pleasure of each other’s bodies. If there is a deal made in the beginning stating no feelings involved, then you have pure, unadulterated lust and sexual desire. When a friendship exists before sex, it can make sex easier. The couple aren't strangers so there is a connection between them. Ho

Let’s talk about commitment! Such a major factor in our lives, don’t you agree? It can literally break or make a relationship. Commitment makes the difference in the way a person reacts to their relationship. It sets the tone. I once had a guy say to me, “I don’t do commitments.” I just stared at him in shock, wondering what would become of him in life.  Commitment matters in every relationship that exists: on your job, at school (with assignments, going to class), your family, your children, your friends, even your integrity, for crying out loud! My acquaintance stated he didn’t want to be tied down. I said, “good luck with that.” I don’t know what became of him. I wish him well. I see some commitments as contracts without the paper and ink. For instance, promising to bring desserts for Thanksgiving dinner, providing the snacks for movie night at your friends’ house, better yet, promising to help your friend move. These are examples of verbal commitments. Have you even